Replaced: The end of an Au Pairs’ year.



Towards the end of every Au Pair’s year, the host family usually begins looking for a new Au Pair or nanny. Often they want our opinion on our replacement as well.

Most of the time, two weeks before an Au Pair finishes with the family, the new Au Pair will arrive, and they’ll be “working together” while the new Au Pair gets to know the kids, and the old Au Pair cries into her pillow. It can be an awkward situation for all involved.

I’m pretty lucky because my family won’t be getting a new Au Pair, which means no one will be staying in my room and sleeping in my bed, but they will be getting a nanny for after school.

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The potential replacement nanny came over a couple of days ago, and took the kids to the park for a few hours so they could get to know her. She’d visited once before and they seemed to like her fine. I hated her on sight.

Don’t get me wrong-I’m sure she’s a perfectly nice woman, and apparently she’s been recommended by the agency so she must be good at her job, but I seem to have regressed back to high-school level maturity, and she’s temporarily ‘the enemy’.

Miss 5 had a great time with her (traitor). Mr 7 was less interested, although he took a couple of months to warm up to me as well.

It’s a weird feeling, this feeling of being replaced. When I’ve left previous jobs I haven’t cared about who’ll be filling my shoes, but this is a completely different situation. I know I’m ready to move on-I’m counting down the days until I leave for San Francisco after all, but I also don’t want the kids to forget me. I don’t want to be just another babysitter in a long line of them, and I certainly don’t want them to like the new nanny more than me. I know I’m being completely irrational, but this month I’m giving myself permission to feel as jealous and pissed off as I like, no matter how immature I’m being.

I’m being very polite to the new nanny (even if she is thinner than me), and I’m trying to act like it’s no big deal in front of the kids. And if I’m upstairs crying in the bathroom while she goes off to hang out with MY kids…well that’s no ones business but mine.

9 comments on “Replaced: The end of an Au Pairs’ year.

  1. Lia July 6, 2012 @ 12:57 am

    well written, it must be an emotional time for you, and i dont like the new nanny too, she is awful :)

    • onetravelsfar July 6, 2012 @ 3:07 pm

      Haha thanks :)

  2. flashpackerfamily July 6, 2012 @ 2:32 am

    What's your next step?

    • onetravelsfar July 6, 2012 @ 3:08 pm

      I'll travel in the states for around three weeks, and then I'm heading to Aussie for around six months to work and travel. I'm planning to hit Europe after that but who knows!

  3. Steph July 8, 2012 @ 1:10 pm

    Haha aww that sucks! Looks like you had an amazing time! All good things come to an end but that can also mean something better may come after! :)

    • onetravelsfar July 8, 2012 @ 5:23 pm

      Haha thanks Steph! I have had an amazing time, and I can't believe how fast it's gone. And you're right-there's definitely some good stuff coming up :)

  4. Edna September 18, 2012 @ 11:58 am

    I can totally relate! I’m a private tutor for this adorable 8-year old and spend nearly 20 hours with him a week. I had to find a replacement for this month that I’m away and even hearing that this person — who I found, interviewed, and recommended to the family at that — was coming to take my place for a month made me feel weird. I had to hand over my house keys and phone for the month so she could use them and I’m worried he’ll like her more than me, and that when I get back he won’t want me anymore! I can’t imagine how terrible this’ll feel when I leave the family for good.

    • Edna September 18, 2012 @ 12:00 pm

      (PS: love the blog, I’ve just spent the last half hour reading all your posts on America – it’s so interesting to read about my country from an outsider’s perspective!)
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      • Stacey September 19, 2012 @ 4:35 am

        I’m glad you understand what I’m talking about. Aww you had to give her your phone? That’s the worst!

        The new nanny has been looking after my kids for a few weeks now, and I’m just trying not to think about it. It’s definitely a horrible feeling, but being able to keep in touch has made it a lot easier.

        I’m glad you like my blog! Thanks for the kind words Edna :)
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